The Powerlessness of Men

The Desire

I am grateful to all of my readers and viewers for their encouraging comments on my most recent blog post. I appreciate all of my readers who have been patiently waiting for my future blog entry. I'm back with another article on lust for sexual desires.

The sun was peeking through the blinds as I was spending my Friday morning resting in bed. I received a message on my phone from someone I have never met or spoken to.

It amazes me how often men approach me nowadays that I'm eligible just by looking at my social media profile picture. Despite knowing who I am, they messaged me and asked me to join up with them for one night. 

It's interesting to learn that guys today are solely interested in having a one-night stand with anyone who will allow them, regardless of whether they are single, married, separated, widowed, or divorced. They do not care whether a lady is in a relationship or not, be it a marriage or another kind of long-term, short-term, committed, or casual connection.

Because there isn't much intimacy in their relationship, many married men or guys in committed relationships look for someone else. They can make contact with a fresh woman who will give them new energy for the day. They don't care about their relationship; all they want is a single night of informal prostitution.

Strangely, one of the men who approached me wanted to hook up with me even though he was married and had a partner since he couldn't fly out every month to satisfy his sexual desires. I do, however, respect his sincerity because he was simply seeking sexual connection and was prepared to reserve an Airbnb for it. Oh, my goodness, they would go to any lengths and do everything to satisfy their sexual desires.

They would only talk about how many times they could masturbate in my vagina in a single night to satisfy their sex needs. I wonder why he is treating my sacred vagina as the focus of his sexual hunger after one swore, he would beat his record. They want to transform me into Anastasia from Shades of Gray and Laura from 365 Days. They imagine having their own red room or yacht where they could experiment with every position in one night.

The desperation and helplessness of men are expressed in their seductive words about how they want to taste me and slip their fingers from my neck to my vagina, sucking my lollipops, squeezing my thighs, tease my clitoris, and immersing me in a way that no one else has ever accomplished. They enjoy having these sexy conversations shortly after dawn. They are most likely at their most hormonal at that time. How they want to be on top of me as they indulge their lust for me, and later how they want me to be on top of them so they may escape into another reality. The flavor and zing give their sexual buzz more excitement and energy.

Platonic Friendship

Friends deserve attention and care

Ah, it's been a while since I published a blog entry. I'm grateful to my readers for their patience as I wrote my other piece. Here I am in the midst of February, the last chance of winter, when the air is crisp and the wind nips at our skin.

My blog post today is about developing a platonic friendship with a new person I met who is more similar to me emotionally than sexually. Once more, I sincerely hope that reading my post brings you all joy.

I'm sitting here sipping my rose and pistachio Kashmiri chai and contemplating how to communicate to the charismatic, self-assured friend sitting across from me. After several hours of in-depth discourse, the two of them strolled through the downtown streets as the wind blew in their faces. Finally, as the evening drew to a close, we made the decision to have an honest discussion on our relationship.

Something that always bothered me growing up and still does to this day, was the idea that our friends were meant to be temporary placeholders until we found a romantic partner. The partner would be the person we shared everything with, and our friend would simply need to take a backseat to accommodate that. That we could spend time and attention and love on friends, but we had to save most of it for romantic connections. In my opinion, I don’t think intimacy is only meant  for romantic relationships.

When I refer to intimacy, I do not mean sex or any other sexual action. I'm referring to the subtle ways we let ourselves be known and the efforts we make to get to know others. The connection that  allows us to enter another person's zone where our energy and feelings of connection are compatible. And of course, this looks different for everyone. We quickly form an opinion about another person without expressing it out loud. Nevertheless, I'm speaking to platonic partnerships in this instance.

Walking by the riverside while holding hands and telling them how much they mean to you without any benefit. Hugging them as often as they will let you, sitting next to them while they sob if they are having a horrible day, or simply being present with them as they sit on the couch and do nothing. Making travel plans over the phone or calling them when they'd had a bad week to listen to them. Becoming their pillar of support, their cry-buddy, their hug-buddy, the confidant with whom all secrets are as sacred as your own and where one is not judged for their unpleasant habits. Expressing your gratitude for the memories you are creating with them in particular and assuring others—as well as yourself—that intimacy is not exclusive to romantic partners. Moreover, your buddies need and deserve your affection and attention too. 

I adore my friends dearly and they are the most significant individuals in my life, and I make a conscious effort to maintain and develop my relationships with them. They have been there for me in my times of greatest need and through the times when I felt like my entire world was collapsing. It can be easy to neglect those relationships at times just because they aren't romantic, but I genuinely believe that friendships are deserving of our love and care as well. I believe platonic intimacy is more significant than we care to admit.

I appreciate you everyone taking the time to read my blog post; please let me know what you think of it in the comments.

Love and Relationships

It is a beautiful summer day, the shining sun, birds singing and children chasing soccer, playing carefree in the playground, and here I am in my calming place having thoughts about what caused the broken bond between love and relationships especially the families. 

In this competitive pandemic mode, I believe we all have somewhat experienced trauma, whether we realize it or not. We all have emotionally hit the wall. We, human beings are here to learn from every experience we have in life and then use the same as teaching for our prospective children. But what would we teach them? that pandemic ended the time and energy between the relationships. 

The lockdown has severely affected the relationships between parents and children. The unmet needs of children ( parents are unable to pay for education fees, rent, necessities, etc) as parents had been laid off from their workplace. The unmet needs of partners, not able to pay mortgages, the never-ending credit-card debts, the separation of parents, loss of beloved ones, unable to pay for a child's needs have dug a hole in their relationships. The forced homeschooling, work from home, not able to do outdoor activities, the late-night drinks with friends have left all of us vulnerable to mental health.

We must preserve our energy and time wisely manner. It is never too late to start a new beginning. Let's take this as a learning curve and find a way to reconcile to make relationships fruitful. Several things can support the relationship.

1: Showing affection to your partner/children allows them to connect with you emotionally.

2: Saying "I Love You" can have a major impact on your relationship and gives an excellent opportunity to remind your partner/child that you love them unconditionally and they feel connected and secure.

3: I believe pandemic has given us an excellent opportunity to spend time together, under one roof. Life is short and the pandemic has taught that in a rough way. Take this time to pass on valuable teachings to your child, teach them the importance of budgeting, the family dinners.

4: Create rituals together, this could be anything from a coffee date with your child/partner, an evening walk around the neighborhood or just a movie night at home, paint night with your partner. 

5: Make time for yourself, feel your vibe. Give yourself a treat with a soothing bath, a hot stone massage, engage in self-care. This will clear your head and reboot your brain. Learn, grow, evolve and become the greatest version of who you are.

There are numerous things in my head that I can write it down but the list won't seem to end. But One day you will look back and realize how hard we were hit with the COVID-19 pandemic but how well we did. 

Do leave me a comment and let me know what topics you all would like me to cover in my next blog post.

A Promise Made To Myself

The optimism in a spring day, the cool breeze, change in weather that wasn't there a few days ago. I had the impression that the evenings are lighter and brighter. The planet earth has been reborn in her brilliance.

While the days reflected serenity and ascending of new energy, my heart went into the haziest idea acquired by a strange storm; it left me feeling foul for a few days. The anonymous uneasiness left me with a sense of falling apart. Amusingly, the hormonal imbalance in my body led to bad-temper and body hurt. Alongside trouble, dissatisfaction, outrage, broken heart, needing to eat carbs, and my battle with body and mind. Along these lines, the negative energies clogged up my brain and it had reached my heart.

Later that day, I reflected on the fruitful discussions I had with my companion about impeding somebody's energy and not enabling them with my own. The error I made, enabled the negative energy to govern me and, as a result, I was thrown directly into a burdensome situation.

The following morning, I washed up, had my hot Nescafe and egg and cheddar. Sat down for an additional two minutes of reflection, composed three things I am appreciative for now in my regular diary. I read my celebrated writer, Louise Hay's book and reviewed how not to give my capacity to anyone. I performed some meditation where I rehearsed blocking the negative energy around me and made a promise to myself to draw in positive thoughts only through my porous mind and not to be submissive to the situation.

Blessing in Disguise

My flawless - dazzling perusers. I realize it's been some time since I posted something. I might want to stretch out my Thank you to just for standing by calmly and showering your adoration towards my blog. It's a brisk read today. I trust all of you appreciate perusing my the present blog.

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Blessed to have another day with daylight 

Blessed to have put on my grin as best cosmetics 

Blessed  to have a fresh start with adoration and bliss 

Blessed to have each new day I had the chance to go through with you 

Blessed to see you bloom each day and live on forever 

Blessed to grin with you consistently as of heart was rarely broken

Blessed to be awakening close to you lively and securely 

Blessed to be me and be free with you